My husband has been traveling for work for years. After my daughter was born, it made it hard on us all. It even came down to her being slightly afraid of him for about 24 hours when he got home, because he was a stranger at first. Now that she’s two and a half, she waits anxiously for him when we go to the airport, and runs to him when she sees him coming from the tram. It melts my heart and I nearly cry every time.
Now, usually my daughter is a momma’s girl. Yes, she LOVES her daddy, but she’s very glued to me. I love it. I have no complaints. It is my job and the best job I have and will ever have. The last 2 times my husband has been home, the following phrases have been used THOUSANDS of times, and are driving me insane: “Where’s daddy?” and “I want to see daddy” and “Daddy’s Coming?”
It’s not a jealousy thing. I love the fact that she wants to play with daddy, but sometimes daddy just cant. Sometimes he has to use the bathroom, work on something that mommy cant do, mow the grass, and lay flooring amongst other things. Sometimes he just wants to go play alone. Nope, a cute two-year-old has other plans.
Usually when I get her up in the morning, whether it be waking her up or going in after she’s awake, I get morning hugs and kisses and we pick out her clothes and get dressed and talk about what we are going to do that day. Now, I WALK in her room and before she has her eyes fully opened, has not sat up and I have received no hugs she says, “I want to go see daddy”. Seriously? What about me? Can we please get stuff started before you insist on seeing daddy?
Then it’s time for lunch. They have been playing on and off all morning. I make her lunch and sit her down to eat and she says, “Where’s Daddy?” Now I have to explain that he is working outside and she can see him after she eats her lunch. I head to the kitchen to make my own lunch and she is up and has the door halfway open to go outside and see daddy before I even make it back to the kitchen. Now, I am basically locking him out and want to tie her to a chair just to get her to eat her lunch.
Do any of you have husbands who disappear into the bathroom with their phone or tablet or iPad and spend 20 minutes of “alone time” in there? I have one of those husbands. He likes his “alone time” to browse the internet or play a game. Yes, my daughter finds him, opens the door and goes in and shuts the door behind her, so much for alone time. If I know that is where he is, sometimes I have to lie to her to give him his potty time. Other wise my honest answer to “where’s daddy” results in her interrupting him, HAHA.
Those are only THREE examples of HUNDREDS or THOUSANDS of incidents that she went through in a 6 week period of him being home. I don’t have enough time or battery life to explain them all! I can tell you this…as soon as she is sick or hurt or scared, 98% of the time she still wants her mommy. I also left one day for 2 hours and JUST before I got home she asked for ME and he told her I wasn’t home and she was crying when I walked in the door because of what he told her. I also told her since she didn’t want mommy, I was leaving and proceeded to walk out of the house and she had a meltdown. I know she still wants me around, but she is always insisting on DADDY at very inconvenient times.
This is just one more of those things that I have been dealing with as a Not-So-Single Mom.
Do any of you ever have these issues? How do you deal with them?
Until Next Time,
The Not-So-Single Mom
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