Trying for Baby #2 – An Update

Trying for Baby #2 - An UpdateAs you may remember my husband and I have been trying for baby number 2 for a while now. We decided to start when our daughter turned 1 and as we just celebrated her 2nd birthday it is taking longer than we had hoped. We are dealing with a bunch of issues that make trying to conceive tough. After 6 months I went to my OBGYN and had blood work done. We wanted to make sure everything was normal.

Of course it was not. I have been told I have something called a low AMH level. This stands for Anti-Mullearn Hormone. Basically it is how doctors tell how many eggs you have left in your ovaries. This number gradually drops in everyone as they age. You are born with a finite amount of eggs and the number only goes down with time. When you hit you’re early 40’s your number tends to dip below 1.0. This is because you are aging and it is totally normal. Unfortunately there are women out there who have this happen way before they should, that is me. There is nothing that can really be done for you, you cannot take anything to make more eggs, only stuff to try and improve the quality of the eggs you already have.

This was not totally out of the blue news to us. When we last attempted IVF trying to get our first child we were told that my ovaries were not reacting properly so we knew this might be a problem. Now it officially is. We decided to take a beat and try on our own for a couple months before heading back to the reproductive specialist, but my body did not cooperate so back to the doc we go.

Now we start what feels like an endless parade of tests, blood draws and meetings with our doctor. You have to wait until a certain point in your cycle and then you go through an entire month of nothing but tests, tests and more tests until you finally get another sit down which results in a progress report and hopefully a plan. I do not want to try IVF again. It did not work for us and really was very costly. So now we are waiting to see what he says. I am terrified that he will say there is nothing we can do except donor eggs with IVF and that is the last thing I want to do.

This can be extremely stressful for a marriage. Your partner cannot possibly be there for everything and they do not have to do the same stuff you do. They cannot understand, do not blame them it’s not their fault. That is what I keep telling myself anyway. I constantly feel like I am falling down a deep rabbit hole and there is nothing to hold on to but I know sometimes you have to fall in order to get somewhere great. We will see what the plan is and of course I will let you know.

Have you ever had to deal with a reproductive specialist? How did you handle the stress?

The Perfectionist Mom


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  1. Kay

    Reading this brought tears to my eyes. Everything will work out, as it should. I can’t even imagine what you are going through, but I admire your strength, as you share your story. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Xo

  2. You’ll get there mama!!!!
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  3. What about adoption? Just because you can’t have a second child in the typical way doesn’t mean you can’t be a mother to a child who really needs that love and support! #‎ibabloggers‬
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    1. We have thought very long and hard about adoption and it is something that we feel very strongly would be great for our family. The process is very extensive so I am doing all of my homework on it while we go through this but I would not be surprised if adoption was in our future.
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  4. Say a prayer and everything will work out!! God always lends a hand when we need it 🙂

    1. I agree. We are just praying that everything goes well 🙂 Thank you for stopping by!
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  5. I have never experienced this but I imagine it must be very frustrating. “You have to fall in order to get somewhere great” …I think this is a great attitude to have.
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    1. Thank you so much Melissa. I have developed that attitude after a lot of crying and “why me”ing. Having a positive attitude about the whole thing makes life easier to deal with.

  6. I hope you get your wish!

  7. So stressful! I’m sorry. Don’t give up, and stay positive :).

    1. We are trying very hard to stay positive. It makes life a lot easier to deal with. Thank you so much for stopping by!

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