Today we have been blessed to have a new mom join us! She is a step parent to three wonderful children. But I am going to let her tell you her story! Please Welcome The Not So Wicked Step-Mom…
My husband and I have been together for 10 years and married for almost 9. He has three amazing children. My step-son is almost 20 and my step-daughters are 15 and 14. I have been in my step-daughters life for almost as long as they have been alive, as my husband and I were friends long before we married. Sadly, our relationship with our oldest isn’t as strong as we would like it to be. His mother moved him out of our home state when he was still a baby and while we try our best to be involved his mother never did much to help foster a relationship with us.
As my relationship with my husband grew I had these images of what a wonderful family we would be. We would split the time with our girls 50/50 with their mother, be there for all of their school events, sporting events, and milestones. We would have an amazing co-parenting relationship with their mother; after all, it is always going to be to do what is best for the children. That dream was quickly shattered when she refused to allow me to be around the children. Then we were told she was taking them out of state and we would barely get to see them. My husband was devastated and I didn’t know how to help.
I then began to question myself and if I was the reason his ex-wife was doing this. Was she taking away his babies to be spiteful and get back at him?
As I had no friends in similar situations I began to search the internet. I have searched everywhere for online support, blogs, and message boards anything to help me with the highs and lows that come with being a step-parent. Sadly, pretty close to everything I have found is who can bash the bio-parents more.
Don’t get me wrong, I can write pages and pages of things that my stepchildren’s mothers have done that are wrong, unfair and hurtful. However, that is not my goal. I want to provide insight to my life as a step-mom; the struggles that come with it and the amazing amount of love that can be achieved. There will be times that I include stories of wrongs that occurred by the mother. I do this simply to share my story and what I have experienced. Because at the end of the day if not for these two women, I wouldn’t have the wonderful family I have now.
I welcome you to join me on my journey. I hope that the insight I provide can help others in similar situations realize they aren’t alone.
The Not So Wicked Step-Mom
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