Happy 4th Birthday Sweet Girl – This years letter

Today is my oldest daughters 4th birthday. She is our first baby. Every year I write her a special card and put it in a box for her. On her 18th birthday, I will give them to her to read. Here is the one I wrote this year:

Four years ago on the first day of Spring, you came charging into this world. From that day on our world bloomed with new life, love, and light. From the very first time I laid eyes on you, it was love. A total, all-consuming love. One that I was not prepared for, but one that I would not trade for anything in the entire universe.

On this, your fourth trip around the sun, your entire world has changed. You went from being our only child, our first and only priority, to being one of two. When you welcomed your new little sister with open arms and the biggest smile, it was all a mom could ask for. You have made it a joy to have two little girls. Even with everything your sister has been going through you never complain, you never ask why. You just watch and wait.

First, I want you to know, I am sorry. This year has not brought you my best. I am sorry that I have not been able to give you the attention you deserve. I will strive to do better. When you ask to play I will remember how fast you are growing and changing. I know the tea parties, princesses, and play doh will all too soon be gone. As moms we can only try to do better, there is no guarantee. I will struggle, but you remind me to slow down with every hug. Every “I love you mommy!” warms my heart. I know I get more of those than I deserve. Please continue to be patient. As your sister grows it will become easier. I promise. Things will even out.

You are only 4 years old and you are wise beyond your years. When I am having a tough day, you give me the best bear hugs in the world. When your sister is having a hard moment, not feeling well, you sit next to her and sing. All you need to do is sit and hold her hand. She hears your voice and calms. I have never seen anything like it. You are her calm, happy place. Your dad and I are so lucky.

If there is ever a time we need a giggle or smile we come to you. That is a weight for a 4-year-old but you handle it with grace and humor. You know how to make the world light up. Whether it is breaking into a funny song, a strangely perfectly choreographed dance, or roaring like a lion, we smile and we laugh so hard our tummies hurt!

I especially love your stories. One of my favorite things in this world is to listen to you tell stories. I love that you sing with every ounce of your body. Watching you in my review mirror is the best gift a mom could ask for. You brighten our day, every day. You are the sunshine in my pocket.

Every day I am stunned by how smart you are. The concepts you understand are wonderful. You will never have to doubt your capabilities. If you do I will be there to remind you of your worth.

You are observant. You hear EVERYTHING. Nothing gets past you. Finally, you have such an incredible memory. This can be good for a parent and bad. You remember each hug and park visit, but you also remember each disappointment.  Please know we are trying our best. You are a wonderful challenge.

When I look at you during your challenging times I see me. I see the stubbornness and strength of character I have passed onto you. This character is passed down from generations of strong women in your line. Take it, make it your own. Know that we are all standing behind you. It can be a burden but we will teach you how to harness it. We cannot wait to see the amazing things you will accomplish.

Most of all, this light you have will bring you joy. It will bring you to the top of mountains. When you reach them your dad, sister and I will be there waiting and cheering you on. Dream big my sweet girl, we love you.

What special traditions do you have with your children on their birthdays?


Kristin – Mommy to the best girl in the world!


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  1. robin masshole mommy

    Aww, this was beautiful. They do grow up way too fast, so I love that you acknowledged that you are going to spend more time playing with her this year.

  2. What a really lovely letter that you wrote to your 4 year old! These letters that you write will be so powerful for her to read as she is an adult. So sweet!
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  3. I love your idea of writing a letter to her to read on her 18th bday! That will be such a special gift!

  4. What a sweet idea to write a letter to your little girl. They grow up so fast and it’s a great way to remember these moments when you look back at them years later.

  5. Happy birthday to you. I hope mummy and daddy spoiled you rotten. xxx
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  6. I have started a journal for letters and to record moments that I’ve found special. My youngest is turning 4 in December and I’ll give that to her on her 18th birthday.
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  7. Aw ‘sunshine in my pockets’ what a lovely phrase to describe your babies. Aren’t children precious, they grow up so fast and before you know it they are adults!
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  8. Such a nice tradition to write a note about her as a four year old and give them all to her on her 18th. I hope you keep it up so she will see how great a mom you are
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  9. Such a lovely letter. I wish I could see her at 18 opening them. She is going to love this. Our traditions were to have a party, either for the family or friends. She always got to choose. More often than not, she’d choose family.
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  10. What a fun idea! you’re daughter will treasure these I am sure! I actually like the idea of letter writing your yourself in 10/20 years or a milestone age. How fun would that be?
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  11. This is amazing. I love the message, it’s so sweet and heartfelt. Nothing can replace the warmth that older daughters bring. I can say the same to my eldest.

  12. This is such a sweet tradition :’) I remember getting a letter from my relatives at a confirmation retreat and it was a treat reading such positive words about myself. No awesome traditions like this one, but if the weather is good we usually go to the beach to celebrate 🙂
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  13. How sweet! My daughter just turned 4 this month and it is crazy how fast they grow up!
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  14. Holly

    My oldest is just now two and my youngest isnt even one yet so we haven’t really established any birthday traditions. I would like to do that though!

  15. Lydia

    This is such a sweet post! I loved reading about your daughter, she sounds absolutely wonderful and so smart!

  16. It is going to be so awesome when she gets to read all of these letters. What a good bonding moment for you both. I would have to say the same thing to my 4 year old daughter about her not getting the best of me since her little brother came along. Babies are hard work and siblings just don’t understand sometimes. But hopefully as they grow together, she won’t remember those moments but instead the fun we all had together. Same for you both!

  17. Brittany

    Four is such a special age. My son is four and wow. We definitely have some terrible moments as well as hilarious ones.

  18. Aww! Happy Birthday to her! I can relate to the stubborness. We eventually grow up manaing it really well.

  19. Aww! Happy Birthday to her! I can relate to the stubborness. We eventually grow up managing it really well. I wish you many more years to come.

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