As I have mentioned before, I come from a large family and so does my husband. You would think that I should be accustomed to having a lot of people around, chaos, etc. Well, that is not the case anymore. I moved away from home when I was 18. I have been either living alone or with a boyfriend. At first, having college parties and such was no issue. I quickly grew out of that and became VERY accustomed to peace and quiet…
My daughter just turned two. We had her birthday party at home. I had SEVEN, yes SEVEN family members come down for her party and they all stayed in my house. 3 adults, 3 teenagers and a 3 year old. I was quickly overwhelmed at the amount of people in my house. Trying to make sure there was enough food, making sure everyone knew where everything was that they may need, and making sure all my animals were friendly, and not let outside accidentally. My daughter was delighted. She has become accustomed to the quiet too, but one there is company…she wants to stay up all night and play.
Everyone arrived on a Wednesday night. By Friday I was fine and happy that everyone was here. Then Saturday rolled on in and it was time for the party. All of a sudden I had not only 7 family members but an additional 20+ people in my home, pool, etc. I was quickly overwhelmed again and felt like hiding. LOL. Luckily, my family took the lead and made sure that the food was out, and the other guests know where everything was if they needed anything. It turned out great and I think everyone had a great time. By the end of the day, I was wondering how I would have done this birthday party without them!
The next few days were great. I had my family with me to sit on the porch and drink coffee with in the mornings. I had extra hands helping with my daughter, laundry, dishes, etc. It was like I was living at home again but everyone was at my house. Three left Monday…that was sad. The rest headed out Wednesday and when I got home that afternoon, it was so quiet. There was no one around to “bother” me, no one to talk to, no one to make a mess or help me clean up. It was very strange and I missed everyone.
The only real issue I had was trying to keep my daughter on a “schedule”. That went out the window. Day care was also an issue. She played hookie one day and only did half of a day the next week. That didn’t help her separation anxiety, but how often do we get to see family, maybe once a year. It was worth the loss of a schedule for a week to be able to spend time with family (and friends) and just kind of vacation at home. To those of you who are accustomed to the quiet and fear a large family gathering at your home, my word of advice is to try and let go of the anxiety. Go with the flow, clean up later. We don’t get to spend enough quality time with our families these days, so please try and enjoy it while you can. After my anxiety wore off, I realized that sometimes its nice to break schedule and just hang out with my family. I am looking forward to the holiday season to spend time with all the crazies again. My husband will not be home this holiday season, so why not go hang out with my crazy family?
Until next week…The Not so Single Mom.
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