Let’s be real-
I have had time to stew on this. I’ve thought out how I felt about it and really- I am not mad. Let me preface that this post by stating that. I’m more saddened than anything. Recently, Mrs. West “broke the internet”. Yes, I’m talking about that viral photo (or should I say photos) of Kim Kardashian-West posing on the cover of a magazine.
Unrealistic to the masses.
Granted, she has only had one child. She is beautiful all made up. She DOES look amazing in the photographs I see of her walking down the street on those grocery store magazines and E! news. I celebrate her beauty and all that she has “accomplished”, because I do not walk in her shoes. I do not know what she deals with or the depth of her hard work. I’ve never lived a millisecond in her life (other than creepily watching KUWTK). Some days, I wish I could be made up like that, even for an hour (oh, to dream)- not to mention find the time to spend 3 hours a day in the gym with a chef to cook my meals.
What I am irritated by is the misconception it projects- painting this, unattainable to most, portrait of what a post-partum body should look like. Not everyone bounces back like a rubber band after having a baby. And, for me, that certainly has not happened after three. It’s taken me a year to even be able to relish in the accomplishments of birthing a child, and that is five years after having the first.
Motherhood is a beautiful thing. It is to be celebrated in all shapes and sizes. While I am happy that the photograph makes the new Mrs. West happy and satisfied in her accomplishments, as a “role model” it doesn’t make many feel good. I say this with the best intentions. In the real world there are stretch marks. Breastfeeding mamas lose elasticity in their breasts and they sure don’t hang like they used to. And if they do for you… God Bless you and your damn genetics.
Personally, Mrs. West, what would impress me is doing a cover shoot au natural. Flaws and all. They are to be embraced and held in such a regard. Your body made a human from cells not seen by the naked eye. It created a human being, it grew the most magnificent system that works in such a meticulous manner and maintains such a balance that it never will be completely understood. I want mama’s to understand that making a human is so much more than the demand society puts on us to bounce back to what our body “used to be”. Realistically that will never happen. We will NEVER be what we once were before. You’ve done something so amazing, so spectacular, so incredible. Appreciate the power, the possibility and the gift you created with that body.
In whatever shape, size or condition it may be in.
Xo- The Naturalist Mama
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